Last-minute cancelations from wedding guests often leave brides and grooms with cash-bu-rning food waste. A newly married couple found a way to convey this fact with a gag invoice they shared with family and friends on social media, but they didn’t realize their post would go viral and highlight a larger RSVP issue.
Douglas and Dedra Simmons of Chicago, Illinois, got married at the Royalton Negril Resort & Spa in Jamaica earlier this month.
They began planning their big day in Nov. 2020 and reached out to their guests on four separate occasions to confirm the final headcount, Douglas Simmons told FOX News. Simmons said four guests and their plus-ones were no-call, no-shows although they agreed they would be in attendance each time. The Simmons saw an opportunity where they could vent out their frustrations and teach a lesson about RSVP etiquette with a mock invoice. Simmons said he and Dedra shared the invoice on social media five days after their wedding, which was held on 2021.
“Don’t be offended when I send this #invoice to you,” he captioned the post. “I’m sending it via email and regular mail.” A reception meal for two cost Simmons and his wife $240, which included appetizers, entrees and a premium bar. “Everyone tells the bride and groom to just eat the cost and don’t worry about it. Why is that OK?” Simmons said in an interview with FOX News. He also questioned why potential c-ritics might find it “tacky or classless” to share a joke invoice rather than a no-call, no-show.
“It’s about integrity and being considerate,” Simmons explained. “In my opinion, it’s time for people to hold others accountable” While the invoice included a due date and payment methods, Simmons clarified that he and his wife aren’t actually seeking money from the guests who failed to show up. Some of their guests have apologized for not notifying the couple ahead of time and have even offered to pay, but Simmons said he and Dedra haven’t taken them up on those offers.
“It wasn’t about the money. It was about teaching a lesson,” he said. “Now they see it doesn’t feel good when someone sends you a bill or you see a bill for something that you said you were going to do.” In a follow-up post that Simmons shared Thursday, he said he received more than 200 messages from people who have appreciated the invoice. Others shared their own RSVP “horror stories,” Simmons said.
SImmons said he and Dedra had 101 guests show up on their special day and appreciated each person who attended. They also appreciate the guests who let them know in advance that they couldn’t make it. “We had a fantastic time,” Simmons said. “It was a beautiful day.” The Simmons’ viral invoice post is still causing a stir on social media and has been shared by comedian DL Hughley and many others. Thousands have since chimed in on where they stand on RSVP etiquette.
Marva – You cant tell the people they should go to the court house, it is the principle behind it,if they could not make it they should have said so, people cant read your minds. Be a loyal friend or family for God’s sake.
Gerard – I understand the couple completely! Congratulations on your 10 year anniversary Phil!
Valerie – For context, it was the people who RSVP’d but didn’t show up that they’re invoicing. And rightfully so. You say you’re turning up, incurring extra cost, and then no-show. That’s filthy.
Cren Cottrell – That is why I respect the City Hall Wedding. Just your witnesses and off you go to your dream Honeymoon.
Ramona – People nowadays don’t value your time, their commitment, or your monies. Some wedding are expensive and b4 u said yes, you need to ensure but ppl do paid per head.
Rosangela – Personally l wouldn’t do it because it seems kind of ,petty but l also get where she is coming from, at least a phone call beforehand or after the wedding to excuse themselves would have been nice.